What Kind Of Host Are You When Your Emotions Come To Visit?

What if we treated the people that came to visit us the same way we deal with our emotions?

Imagine the door bell rings, you open your door and immediately REACT by yelling, screaming, crying or giving your visitor the silent treatment?  

You could also RESIST them from coming in: lock the door, click the dead bolt, push the couch in front of the door, close all the blinds, and make sure all the other doors are locked.  You can pretend nobody is there.  

Another tactic you could use on the visitor is to AVOID them by getting so involved with something else that you don't need to deal with them.  You could scroll social media, keep eating until they go away, focus on your work, over clean the house, have a Netflix marathon, get really drunk, or do a bunch of online shopping.  They might not go away but at least you don't have to deal with them.  

The other option is to ALLOW them to come in (we know they are safe).  You can be kind, compassionate, curious and let them deliver the message they came to share.  

When an emotion comes to visit you (emotions come and go based on the thoughts we think), what kind of host do you want to be?  If we allow the emotion to be there instead of reacting, resisting, or avoiding it, it is a heck of a lot less work.  After you allow the emotion to be there, it will leave until you invite it back next time with another thought.

I can help you learn to process the emotions that are coming up for you in your mixed faith marriage or any other aspect of your life.  Email me and let's get to work.

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